Self care & Burn out - the heart of crown work

If you’re reading this and you bleed every month without dying… if you juggle kids, a partner, a career, maybe all at once… trust me, I see you.

I see the eye roll when I say “self-care.” like youve heard it all before.
I know you’re thinking, “Yeah, right. Thats a 'nice to have/do between school dropoffs, deadlines, and whatever else needs my attention”

So let’s not sugarcoat it. Let’s talk about burnout. Let’s talk about the invisible load you carry. The endless lists, the unspoken responsibilities, the quiet griefs and worries that no one see's you carry.

I feel like what you carry invisibly on your shoulders often shows up on your crown. 

When stress is high, hair tells the truth. Strands thin. Growth slows. Shedding accelerates. The shine dulls. Your body says: “I can’t keep pouring out without being poured into.” and you hair agrees.

And my confession: I don’t always have self-care nailed down either. Sometimes I’m feeding every part of myself into my kids and family, and I can’t even figure out where my oxygen mask is, let alone put it on. I’m listening to everyone, all the time, in a constant state of emotional labour. Im also making them cofeee, creating new hair colour combos and looks for them whilst telling them all about Serene Haircare. And truthfully? A part of me wouldn’t have it any other way.

But there’s always another part of me, one that whispers in my minds shadows.. "perhaps I could have handled that conversation more gracefully".... I get on my own ass and think " I could have done better, lightened that hair colour a touch more, been just a little more patient with my kids...."

That’s the trap of perfection.

And the lesson? perfection is not where connection is. Connection lives in vulnerability. In the messy middle. In the truth of being human. Self care is this to me, Connecting with ones self... Asking yourself 'what do i want?" "what do I need in this moment?"

Dont wait until you’re down and out or until your hair is snapping off. The point is maintenance. Oxygen-mask moments that keep you steady enough to show up with compassion, for yourself and for others. Over time, that maintenance grows into empowerment. When we practice self compassion, we practice self care, we look after ourselfs and those around us when we have this balance. Every one benefits. Even your hair.